Golfing Offspring #2 went to the introductory meeting for her school golf team today. She still hasn't made up her mind about joining the team. And here's the thing. The Golfer really doesn't care if she joins or not. It's totally up to her. You may find this strange, considering how much golf is a part of life here in The Household. But it's not really. Because of Big Difference number two between Golfers and golfers. Golfers know that it's just a game. And because it's just a game, if it isn't fun, and you aren't enjoying yourself, than there is no point in doing it. GO2 enjoys playing golf. If joining the team will change that, then don't join the team.
You will never see a Golfer throw his clubs. Kick over their bag. Pound the cart. Or turn more and more surly as the round goes on. It's just a game. If you get that upset playing it, then it's not fun, and you should find something else to do.
If you are playing a round with a Golfer, they will never correct your swing, or give you advice, unless you ask for it. It's a game. Constantly correcting, and telling someone what to do, takes all the fun out of it. For both of you. And remember Big Difference number one? If you don't count your whiffs, take 5 mulligans, and kick an out of bounds ball back in bounds, it doesn't effect The Golfer's score at all. If you are having a good time, and The Golfer is having a good time, he won't call you on any of it. He will definitely NOTICE, but he won't call you on it. It's just a game.
This doesn't mean The Golfer doesn't care. It may be a game, but all games have rules. And whether or not you play by the rules says a lot about you. This is why so many deals get done at the golf course. If you are a CEO who is considering doing business with another CEO, you take him golfing. If the other CEO is rude to the people in the pro shop, takes mulligans on several holes, doesn't count a whiff he thinks you didn't see, counts a 5 when you know he had a 6, and throws his pitching wedge in the lake after he hits a bad shot, would you really want to do business with him? It's just a game. If you have that kind of attitude, and will cheat, when it's just a game, what will you do when it's business for real money? Business people think the reason to play golf is to be able to spend 5 hours chatting up the boss. But the boss doesn't need to talk to you. They just need to see how you play the game. You can learn all you need to know about a persons character by playing just one round of golf with them.
If you don't count whiffs, and take mulligans, and aren't real careful about your score on each hole, but you also don't use the score toward your handicap( maybe you aren't even in the GHIN and don't even care about a handicap ), and it's obvious the real reason you are out there is to have fun and keep The Golfer company while he plays his round, then The Golfer won't care, and he will play with you again under the same conditions. Because it's a game and it should be fun. But if you use your score towards your handicap, and it's obvious you consider those normal playing conditions, The Golfer won't say anything. But he will find excuses to never play with you again. Because games have rules.
So whether GO2, or GO3 coming up behind her, joins the golf team is totally up to them. Just as it was for GO1 before them. Would The Golfer like her to join? Yes. Would he like to have one of The Offspring take the game seriously enough that they would be willing to join him on The Frozen Tundra? Absolutely. But it's much more important to him that they enjoy playing The Game their whole lives long.